What’s up with my teenager??

October 19, 2017 Comments Off on What’s up with my teenager??

Get excited by the NEW!!

September 26, 2017 Comments Off on Get excited by the NEW!!

Get excited by the New! As a counsellor, a great deal of time is spent relaying and discussing the events that bring clients to see me. They need to examine and understand the event itself and learn to manage the symptoms which usually present as a result of the trauma they experienced. Often this event […]

Guilt!

July 25, 2017 Comments Off on Guilt!

Guilt is a common feeling that comes from blaming oneself for a situation and it usually results in feelings of anxiety, depression, self-shame, which in itself can result in feelings of hopelessness. It is an unproductive feeling and in many cases it is unwarranted. Some people don’t know what to do with their feelings of guilt […]

taking responsibility and becoming an adult when we really don’t want to….

July 10, 2017 Comments Off on taking responsibility and becoming an adult when we really don’t want to….

Often we really don’t want to have to dig deep and become responsible adults. We want someone else to do it for us. This may be conscious or unconscious. We all want things to come easily to us and often we would like it served on a silver platter so that all we have to […]

In our psyche we all have an internal parent, adult and child. Today I am going to explain a bit about our internal child. There are times when we, as adults, operate from the child inside. We can be the free child where we sing and dance and have fun; we can be the child who tantrums when we don’t get our own way; we can have poor emotional regulation which is also childlike and we can be superstitious which is also part of our child. we can self-soothe by drinking, drugging, gambling, cutting etc as a way to stop the pain as opposed to the adult part of us who would deal with that which is causing us pain. We can be the ‘good child’ who helps and serves others and then we can be the rebellious child. we can sulk like a child, be obstinate like a child, not engage in a petulant way and be reckless and self-centered. As adults we would have thought we didn’t do all that anymore but the little child is still within us. Our job as adults is to be conscious of when we are going into self-destructive child behaviours and to address is. That takes the adult in us to recognize the child’s behavior and to treat it firmly, kindly and to create a PLAN to assist with changing the default acting out. Counselling assists in identifying your process and the therapist works with you to examine workable ways to recognize and change the behavior which may have served you as a child but which now hinders you.

May 19, 2017 Comments Off on In our psyche we all have an internal parent, adult and child. Today I am going to explain a bit about our internal child. There are times when we, as adults, operate from the child inside. We can be the free child where we sing and dance and have fun; we can be the child who tantrums when we don’t get our own way; we can have poor emotional regulation which is also childlike and we can be superstitious which is also part of our child. we can self-soothe by drinking, drugging, gambling, cutting etc as a way to stop the pain as opposed to the adult part of us who would deal with that which is causing us pain. We can be the ‘good child’ who helps and serves others and then we can be the rebellious child. we can sulk like a child, be obstinate like a child, not engage in a petulant way and be reckless and self-centered. As adults we would have thought we didn’t do all that anymore but the little child is still within us. Our job as adults is to be conscious of when we are going into self-destructive child behaviours and to address is. That takes the adult in us to recognize the child’s behavior and to treat it firmly, kindly and to create a PLAN to assist with changing the default acting out. Counselling assists in identifying your process and the therapist works with you to examine workable ways to recognize and change the behavior which may have served you as a child but which now hinders you.

I am working with many tweens and teens at the moment who are battling with self-esteem, confidence, social anxiety and generalized anxiety among other issues. Parents have asked me to do an informative and interactive talk for them to give them the tools to best navigate their children’s teenage years. I am very happy to do this and I would need to know who would be interested in attending such a talk. it would take place early evening in Mouille Point. please email at debbi@ptsd.co.za for queries or bookings

April 26, 2017 Comments Off on I am working with many tweens and teens at the moment who are battling with self-esteem, confidence, social anxiety and generalized anxiety among other issues. Parents have asked me to do an informative and interactive talk for them to give them the tools to best navigate their children’s teenage years. I am very happy to do this and I would need to know who would be interested in attending such a talk. it would take place early evening in Mouille Point. please email at debbi@ptsd.co.za for queries or bookings

counselling

October 24, 2016 Comments Off on counselling

As the year comes to an end I find that people are becoming more and more stressed and anxious. Many of my clients are presenting with burn-out, feeling overwhelmed and having difficulties in sorting out their priorities and putting themselves last. Stress, anxiety and / or trauma affects the body by creating muscle tension, headaches, […]

Q: Abused by three intruders

January 2, 2013 No comments yet

Ask Debbi: Q: I am so angry with myself because I was unable to protect my wife who was abused by three intruders when we were robbed. I just lay there and didn’t get up and fight. She understands but I am tortured by this. Why didn’t I do more? A: When the crime began […]

Q: I was hijacked

January 2, 2013 No comments yet

Q: Since I have been hijacked I have withdrawn into my shell and am finding myself struggling to spend time with my children and my friends. Is this normal? A: Withdrawing is a normal reaction as you experienced a near-death experience according to your brain (whether you were injured or not). You have been at […]

Q: Robbed at home now irritable

January 2, 2013 No comments yet

Q: My husband and I were robbed at home and we have been snappy and irritable with each other since. I really thought that having been through a shared trauma that we would be more understanding of each other. What is going on? A: Your reactions are completely normal. One of the most common symptom […]